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T Dub turned things around for me.
'T Dub,' as he likes to be called, is the author of The Magic Of Making Up. He says that most of what we know when it comes to getting an ex back is totally wrong, and that if I really wanted to get my ex back, I had to do things a little differently. I figured what the heck... I bought his e-book and started reading. What I read blew me away. I realized that I was doing several things wrong in trying to get my ex back, such as:
1.) I was too desperate and helpless. I allowed myself to be so dependent on my ex-girlfriend that I had lost all sense of my individuality. In the end, I depended on my ex so much that being without her was like being a fish out of water. 2.) I was trying too hard to get back with her. All the phone calls, text messages, and e-mails I sent her in attempts to win her back were actually working against me. It showed her that I was weak and hapless – hardly what she was looking for in a real man. The attention was also choking her, and she repeatedly withdrew to get some breathing space. 3.) I was being dishonest with myself. One of the things I did to try to win her back was to buy her gifts. When I read T Dub's book, I realized that doing so was being dishonest with myself, since I wasn't really trying to appease her with the gifts. Instead, I was trying to appease myself by trying to get her back. This selfish mentality was poisonous in my situation. 4.) Many, many more mistakes. I would have never realized how wrong my approach was in getting my ex back until I read everything that T Dub had to say in his book. It made me regret the fact that it took me so long to find help.
Fortunately, T Dub gave me hope. He said that couples make up all the time, and even the worst breakups can be fixed, especially when I followed the tips in his book. And believe me, The Magic Of Making Up turned things around for me and my ex-girlfriend before I even knew it. I learned that I had to get my mind off of my ex-girlfriend for a while to allow some healing to take place on its own. I also had to learn how not to keep in touch with her – this was really hard to do. T Dub also showed me how to be a real man – that is, how to be the best man I could be for her. It all happened so fast.
My ex-girlfriend went from a cold, brooding creature to a warm, cheery person – as soon as she saw the changes in me, she started warming up back to me. We soon started hanging out again, as if we were really good friends. From then on, using the knowledge that The Magic Of Making Up left in me, I went on to fix the bridges that our breakup had burned.
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