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Getting into a relationship is different from keeping one.
Hi, my name is Davey Pitters. At this time I know what you’re going through. I learned this the hard way in my first relationship. I met her while we were still studying at University. I was this cocky, naïve, video gamer guy who was having a hard time getting out of the high school mindset, and she was this quiet, bookish Christian girl whose only goal In life was to do everything right. In hindsight, I was someone kids today would call a “loser” -- I had no social life, no previous girlfriend, and not even a fixed circle of friends. I split my time between going to school, sleeping at home, and playing games at the local PlayStation joint all by myself. I'd be lying if I said getting into a relationship with a girl was the last thing on my mind. The video games I played were filled with stories of the sword-wielding hero who saved the damsel in distress at the end of the game, and they went on to live happily ever after. At the time, that was the biggest challenge of my life – to actually save my own damsel in distress. I promised myself that if I ever did get a girlfriend, I'd treat her like a queen all her life.
If I only knew it wasn't that simple!
Don't be fooled by new love. We actually didn't hit things off until our third year at University. During the first two years, we always saw each other as aloof. I knew she was one of the best students at my course at the time, and she always did well whenever we worked together. We only started noticing each other when I realized I was better at her at one, and only one, subject: Math. So now you have an idea just how geeky I was. As our Math classes got more and more difficult, she began turning to me for help. My Math skills became my pick-up lines – we soon started talking about things removed from the usual schoolwork. Before I knew it, we were going out on dates. I didn't notice just how taken I was just by being alone with a girl until I realized I hadn't visited the video arcade for a whole month.
I was falling in love! The indignity!
So, a few months after we broke the ice over a difficult Math problem, we started going steady. And for a whole year, we had the most enjoyable time of our lives with each other. The romance was incredibly strong, and saying goodbye at the end of each school day was the hardest thing to do. Those days, we both felt that what we had was going to last forever.
So I got pretty careless.
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